HIS GRACE
You Are Not Too Far Gone
For the person who has done things they think are unforgivable. There is no expiration date on grace. There is no history that puts you beyond its reach.
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The thought that says you are the exception
There is a thought that visits a lot of people — sometimes quietly, sometimes loudly — that says: I know God forgives people. I know grace is real. But not for me. Not for what I did. I am the specific case that falls outside the scope of what is offered. I have gone too far, done too much, stayed away too long, hurt people in ways that cannot be undone. I am the exception.
This thought is a lie. It is one of the most persistent and convincing lies available, because it wears the clothing of honest self-assessment. It sounds like humility — "I am not claiming to deserve more than I do." But it is not humility. It is a refusal to believe that grace is actually as large as the scriptures say it is.
The evidence against this lie is not a theological argument. It is a set of people — real people with real histories — whose stories have been preserved in scripture precisely because they are the proof that there is no such thing as too far gone. We are going to look at three of them.
Come now — even scarlet can become white as snow
"Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool."
In the ancient world, scarlet and crimson were the most permanent, most difficult-to-remove dyes available. They were used specifically because they did not fade, did not wash out, could not be undone. When God chose the metaphor, He chose it deliberately: even the stains you think are permanent — the things in your past you are most sure cannot be removed — can be made white as snow.
And the invitation is "come now." Not "come when you are ready." Not "come once you have made sufficient amends." Not "come when the guilt has faded and you feel like you have some standing to approach." Come now. In whatever state you are in. That is the whole requirement.
The verse is in the context of God speaking to a people who have been faithless — who have rebelled against Him, ignored Him, offered empty religious observance while living contrary to His character. And His first word is not condemnation. It is: come. Let us reason together. The invitation precedes the correction, the restoration precedes the accounting. Come first. Everything else follows from the coming.
Alma the Younger — the enemy who became the apostle
Alma the Younger's story is one of the most dramatic conversions in the scriptures, and it is dramatic for a specific reason: he was not merely a passive backslider or a person who had wandered into sin through weakness. He was an active opponent of God's work. He chose this.
"Now the sons of Mosiah were numbered among the unbelievers; and also one of the sons of Alma was numbered among them, he being called Alma, after his father; nevertheless, he became a very wicked and an idolatrous man. And he was a man of many words, and did speak much flattery to the people; and he led many of the people to do after the manner of his iniquities. And he became a great hinderment to the prosperity of the church of God; stealing away the hearts of the people; causing much dissension among them."
"A man of many words" — he was persuasive, skilled, charismatic. He used those gifts to dismantle what his father had built. He did not just abandon God — he recruited others to abandon God with him. He was, by any measure, an enemy to the work.
An angel appeared and spoke with a voice that shook the earth. Alma fell. He could not speak. For three days he lay in a state of complete internal torment, unable to move or speak, experiencing the full weight of his guilt:
"But I was racked with eternal torment, for my soul was harrowed up to the greatest degree and racked with all my sins. Yea, I did remember all my sins and iniquities, for which I was tormented with the pains of hell... The very thought of coming into the presence of my God did rack my soul with inexpressible horror."
He did not minimize what he had done. He felt the full weight of it. And then — in the middle of that torment — he remembered something his father had taught him about Jesus Christ:
"And it came to pass that as I was thus racked with torment, while I was harrowed up by the memory of my many sins, behold, I remembered also to have heard my father prophesy unto the people concerning the coming of one Jesus Christ, a Son of God, to atone for the sins of the world. Now, as my mind caught hold upon this thought, I cried within my heart: O Jesus, thou Son of God, have mercy on me, who am in the gall of bitterness, and am encircled about by the everlasting chains of death! And now, behold, when I thought this, I could remember my pains no more; yea, I was harrowed up by the memory of my sins no more. And oh, what joy, and what marvelous light I did behold; yea, my soul was filled with joy as exceeding as was my pain!"
"O Jesus, thou Son of God, have mercy on me." That is the prayer. That is the whole prayer. In the middle of the worst state he had ever been in — the accumulation of his choices laid out before him without excuse — he simply turned toward Christ and asked for mercy. And the pain stopped. The guilt lifted. The joy came — and it was as exceeding as the pain had been, which had been extreme.
What Alma became
Alma the Younger went on to be one of the greatest missionaries in the Book of Mormon. He served as the first chief judge of the Nephite nation. He wrote some of the most theologically rich sermons about grace, repentance, and conversion in all of scripture — including Alma 5, which asks the congregation whether they have experienced the mighty change of heart. He knew what that change felt like, because he had experienced it from the deepest possible starting point.
God did not use Alma in spite of his past. He used Alma's past — his specific experience of how far you can go and still be reached — to make him uniquely able to reach people in similar darkness. Your worst moments are not the thing that disqualifies you. They may be the thing that, once grace has done its work, makes you exactly the right person for what God needs done.
Paul — from murderer to apostle
Saul of Tarsus had credentials. He was a Pharisee of the strictest sort — educated at the feet of Gamaliel, the most respected rabbi of his generation, zealous for the law beyond most of his peers. He was also a murderer.
"And cast him out of the city, and stoned him: and the witnesses laid down their clothes at a young man's feet, whose name was Saul... And Saul was consenting unto his death... As for Saul, he made havoc of the church, entering into every house, and haling men and women committed them to prison."
Stephen was the first Christian martyr — the first person killed specifically for faith in the risen Christ. Saul watched. He held the coats of the people throwing stones. He was "consenting unto his death." He then made it his purpose to systematically dismantle the early church — entering houses, arresting people, destroying families. Acts 26:10 records Paul himself saying he had "given my voice against them" when Christians were put to death.
"And as he journeyed, he came near Damascus: and suddenly there shined round about him a light from heaven: and he fell to the earth, and heard a voice saying unto him, Saul, Saul, why persecutest thou me? And he said, Who art thou, Lord? And the Lord said, I am Jesus whom thou persecutest: it is hard for thee to kick against the pricks. And he trembling and astonished said, Lord, what wilt thou have me to do?"
"Lord, what wilt thou have me to do?" This is the turning. Not a long speech. Not a prepared defense. A trembling question: what do you want from me? That question — asked honestly, from the ground, by the man who had been on his way to arrest more Christians — was enough to begin what became one of the most consequential lives in the history of the church.
What Paul wrote afterward
Paul wrote more of the New Testament than any other author. He articulated the theology of grace — by grace, through faith, not of works — with a precision that has shaped Christian understanding for two thousand years. And he knew exactly why he was able to articulate it:
"This is a faithful saying, and worthy of all acceptation, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners; of whom I am chief. Howbeit for this cause I obtained mercy, that in me first Jesus Christ might shew forth all longsuffering, for a pattern to them which should hereafter believe on him to life everlasting."
"Of whom I am chief." Paul did not move past his history — he held it in full view and saw it as the evidence of grace, not the evidence against it. He obtained mercy so that in him "Jesus Christ might shew forth all longsuffering, for a pattern." His story is in the scripture because God wanted every person who came after to see: if Paul was not too far gone, you are not too far gone. That is explicitly the purpose Paul gives for why his conversion is in the record.
The thief on the cross — the last-hour conversion
This story answers one specific question that all the others do not quite answer: what if you come very late? What if your life is largely over and you have spent most of it not turning toward God? What if the window you have is very small?
"And one of the malefactors which were hanged railed on him, saying, If thou be Christ, save thyself and us. But the other answering rebuked him, saying, Dost not thou fear God, seeing thou art in the same condemnation? And we indeed justly; for we receive the due reward of our deeds: but this man hath done nothing amiss. And he said unto Jesus, Lord, remember me when thou comest into thy kingdom. And Jesus said unto him, Verily I say unto thee, To day shalt thou be with me in paradise."
Look at what this man had to work with. He was on a cross. He was dying. He could not be baptized, could not attend church, could not serve anyone, could not make right whatever he had done to end up in this situation. He had no track record of discipleship, no years of faithful service, nothing to offer except a clear-eyed acknowledgment of his guilt ("we indeed justly") and a single request: Lord, remember me.
That was enough. "To day shalt thou be with me in paradise." Not "I will consider your case after you have demonstrated sufficient repentance" or "I will remember you eventually once appropriate steps have been taken." Today. With me. Paradise.
The parable of the laborers in the vineyard (Matthew 20) said that the person who comes at the eleventh hour receives the full wage. The thief on the cross is that parable in a real person's actual life. He came at the last possible moment. He received the full thing. If there is a person reading this who feels that they have used up too much of their life going the wrong direction — that the window remaining is too small to matter — the thief on the cross is the answer. The window does not have to be large. It has to be used.
There is no expiration date on this invitation
"He inviteth them all to come unto him and partake of his goodness; and he denieth none that come unto him, black and white, bond and free, male and female; and he remembereth the heathen; and all are alike unto God."
He denieth none. Not "he denieth none except those who have sinned too many times." Not "he denieth none except people with your particular history." None. The only condition in that verse is coming. And you are here, which means you are already in the process of coming.
"For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Paul's list is comprehensive and deliberate. He is trying to exhaust all the categories of things that might conceivably come between you and God's love — and saying that none of them can do it. Not your past ("things present"). Not where your life goes from here ("things to come"). Not the power of anything in the spiritual world. Not the depth of the hole you are in. None of it can separate you from the love of God in Christ. The love is not conditional on your performance. It cannot be forfeited by your failure. It is there — and it is there right now.
"Wherefore, it must needs be an infinite atonement — save it should be an infinite atonement this corruption could not put on incorruption."
Infinite. Not large. Not sufficient for most people. Infinite. A finite sin — however serious, however prolonged, however dark — cannot exceed an infinite atonement. The math simply does not work in the direction of "too far gone." Whatever you have done has a finite weight. What He did has infinite weight. You are not too far gone. You never could be.
What to do with this
Knowing this is one thing. Receiving it is another. People read about grace intellectually without letting it reach the place where the shame lives. So here is the practical question: what would it look like for you to actually apply this — not as a theological position but as a real act?
Alma said it in his heart: "O Jesus, thou Son of God, have mercy on me." The thief said it out loud: "Lord, remember me." Paul said it from the ground: "Lord, what wilt thou have me to do?" The form is not what matters. The turning is what matters. Name the specific thing you think makes you too far gone, and bring it to Him directly. Not the edited version. The actual thing. He already knows. Naming it to Him is not informing Him — it is the act of bringing it rather than carrying it alone.
The thought that you are too far gone is not humility — it is a refusal to believe the scripture. Isaiah 1:18 is a categorical promise. Romans 8:38-39 is categorical. 2 Nephi 26:33 is categorical. When the thought comes ("but in my case..."), the appropriate response is not to engage it and build a case for it. The appropriate response is: "You are lying to me. The scripture says something different, and I choose to believe the scripture." Say it out loud if you need to. The thought loses power when it is named and contested.
Mosiah 4:27 says you are not required to run faster than you have strength. You do not have to fix everything today. You do not have to undo what has been done. You only need to take one step in the direction of coming to Christ. Read one verse. Say one honest prayer. Reach out to one person. Attend one meeting. The first step does not have to be large. It has to be a step. Alma called on Christ once from the depths of his torment. The thief said a few words from a cross. Paul asked one question from the ground. One step. Today. That is enough to begin.
A prayer for the person who thought they were the exception
Lord — I have spent a long time believing that my specific case was the exception. That what I've done, or what I've been, or how long I've been away, meant that the invitation somehow didn't quite extend to me. I believed this even while reading the promises. I thought: yes, but not me.
I am choosing — right now — to believe the scripture instead. Isaiah said scarlet becomes white as snow, and that has no asterisk. Paul said nothing can separate me from your love, and that list is exhaustive. Alma called on you from the worst state he had ever been in and you answered. The thief had hours left and you said: today, paradise.
I don't have a clean record to offer you. I have exactly what they had: a turning. I am turning toward you. I am saying what the thief said: remember me. I am saying what Alma said: have mercy on me. I don't have anything else. But the scripture says that is enough, and I am choosing to believe it.
Amen.
Questions to sit with
What specifically makes you feel like you might be too far gone? Is it a particular sin? A length of time away? Something you did to another person? Write it down if you can. Now hold it next to Isaiah 1:18 and 2 Nephi 9:7 ("infinite atonement"). Does your specific case exceed an infinite atonement? Can it?
Paul wrote in 1 Timothy 1:16 that he obtained mercy so that his story could be a "pattern" — an example — for every person who came after him who needed to believe that grace could reach that far. If you were writing the equivalent sentence from your own life, what would it say? What would it mean if your story — the full dark version — became the thing that helped someone else believe grace could reach them?
"Lord, remember me" is perhaps the simplest prayer in the New Testament. No preamble. No explanation. Just a request to be remembered. Is there a version of that prayer that you could say today — where you take the specific thing you think disqualifies you, bring it to Him, and simply ask to be remembered? What would that cost you to say?
Alma 36:20 says the joy he felt was "as exceeding as was my pain" — and the pain had been extreme. He was not restored to neutral. He was filled with joy proportional to the weight of what had been lifted. What would it mean if that were available to you specifically? Not neutrality, not the absence of guilt, but joy proportional to what you have been carrying?
Questions about whether grace reaches this far
Is there a sin too big for God to forgive?
No. Isaiah 1:18: "Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow." Romans 8:38-39: nothing — not height, depth, nor any other creature — can separate us from the love of God. 2 Nephi 9:7 calls the Atonement "infinite." A finite sin cannot exceed an infinite atonement. You are not the exception to what the scripture says. The claim "I am too far gone" is not humility — it is a refusal to believe the specific, categorical promises God has made. They apply to you.
Who was Alma the Younger and what happened to him?
Alma the Younger actively worked to destroy the church, leading people away from God with his words and influence. An angel struck him speechless. For three days he experienced the full weight of his guilt. Then he remembered what his father had taught about Christ — and called on Him. Alma 36:19-20: the pain stopped. Joy came that was "as exceeding as was my pain." He became one of the greatest missionaries in the Book of Mormon and wrote some of the most searching sermons on grace in all of scripture. If Alma the Younger was not too far gone, neither are you.
What happened to the thief on the cross?
Two criminals were crucified with Jesus. One mocked. The other said: "Lord, remember me when thou comest into thy kingdom." Jesus answered: "To day shalt thou be with me in paradise." (Luke 23:42-43). This man's entire conversion happened in his last hours, on a cross, with no ability to do anything except turn toward Christ and ask. That was enough. If his last-hour conversion was sufficient, there is no such thing as coming too late or having too small a window. The window does not have to be large. It has to be used.
How did Paul go from persecuting Christians to writing the New Testament?
Saul of Tarsus watched Stephen die and gave his approval. He arrested Christians from their homes. On the road to Damascus, Christ appeared to him. He asked: "Lord, what wilt thou have me to do?" That turning was enough to begin a conversion that produced more of the New Testament than any other author. 1 Timothy 1:16: Paul said he obtained mercy so his story would be a "pattern" for everyone who came after — proof that grace can reach that far. His story is in the record specifically because God wanted you to see it.
What does Isaiah 1:18 mean?
Scarlet and crimson were the most permanent dyes in the ancient world — they did not wash out. God chose those metaphors deliberately: even the stains you think are permanent can be made white as snow. "Come now" is the invitation — not "come when you are ready" or "come once you have made amends." Come now. That is the entire requirement. The transformation is His work. The coming is yours.
If you are in a dark place — if shame has told you that you are beyond help — please reach out to people too. That is not weakness. That is what courage looks like from the inside.
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